I hope that if nothing else I can get a solution to my problem but has anyone else just gotten sick of their hair? It feels like mine is too long and needs to be cut. It feels nice but it looks gross to me. I'm not sure what's causing it, but I know I want long hair. So my point is this: Does anyone else feel like chopping it all off, and how do you deal with it? I'm hoping to just let it pass but if people can help me make it a little more bearable that'd be great. TIA!

Awwww i can sympathise! Sometimes i get so arsed off with my hair that i get tempted to just lop off a load of it. But then i remember how down i get whenever i do have a big chop.
I'm not sure i have a miracle fix for this, but if it's the hair getting in the way lots thats bothering you how about focusing on learning updo's? That way it's out of the way, plus you get to try new looks without doing anything as drastic as chopping.
Also if you have a goal length in mind how about collecting pics off the net of nice hair the length you want it? I find that helps with me because i then imagine how i'd feel looking at those pictures if i were to chop a load of hair off.
For what it's worth i think you have lovely hair and it'd be a shame for you to chop it off due to frustration.
HTH somewhat :)

Get new hair toys...may I suggest some Ficcares? :wink: Also I think your hair is pretty. Such a pretty color.:smile:

I frequently feel like whacking it all off but my fear of hairdressers and certain knowledge that I would regret it stops me. Your hair is not too long by anyones standards-in your sig pic it looks about average length for most women. Persevere:grin:

So my point is this: Does anyone else feel like chopping it all off, and how do you deal with it? I'm hoping to just let it pass but if people can help me make it a little more bearable that'd be great. TIA!

Updos and hairtoys! I speak from experience here. Finding the joy of updos and the excitement of showing off great hairtoys has completely rejuvenated my hairgrowing experience. Especially since I'm going through a phase where I'm not liking how it looks down. I want it to be longer and it just isn't, so putting it up takes that off of my mind.

Hopefully someone will be able to help you get over this snag, since it sounds like you want to persevere. :flower:

ETA: I just wanted to add that you have beautiful hair! I love the colour and the way it lies. Just gorgeous!

Hey, stop it! Your hair is great! Just work through it... don't chop it off. You would look great with waist length or longer hair... just go for it!!!!!!!!!!!

Where's trolleypup when you need him? I really do think hairtoys are the answer. If you can't afford REAL hairtoys, then go on an imaginary online shopping trip and pick out what you would get if you could afford them. Give yourself an imaginary budget of what a cut/style at your salon would cost.

Then go grab your boring old (insert whatever hairtoys you already have here and don't forget the shoelaces and pencils) and figure out some new way to use them.

I've spent the whole week resisting the urge to unnecessarily wash by trying a new updo every day; I'm not always fit to be seen in public, but at least I'm not bored, overhandling my hair, or wasting hot water.

If this doesn't work, I've noticed that sometimes the other extreme will: I'm just sick of hair and thinking about my hair and wishing that I had someone else's hair and I need to think about something that isn't hair for awhile! My mind reacts by saying, "Aw, fuggetit!" in the same temporary rebellious manner it used to make me wonder if I shouldn't give my kids up for adoption, quit my job, walk out of my apartment, abandon all of my possessions, burn off my fingerprints and hitchhike to Botswana! < g >

YES. I am feeling very sick of my hair right now. I do need a trim though (it's been nine months) so I'm treating myself to a Madora salon visit. I hope after that I'll feel more positive about my hair.

I do want to grow it to hip-length, but I feel like I will permit myself this trim (no more than 1" or so) and some front-layer shaping or even sideswept bangs. There's no sense in feeling bored because it's shapeless. Perhaps you could do something similar.

Put the Two Week Rule into effect when you feel this way! Give yourself two weeks before deciding to act on your "sick of it" feeling, and in the meantime, try to find things you do enjoy about your hair still. Toys, deep treatments, pampering, whatever works. It should help the time pass until the urge to chop passes. :)

Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

Wear your hair in an updo or braids or something for a week or so. When you go back to letting it just hang freely your going to fall in love with it all over again. :cloud9:

If you have a photo manipulation program, try making a pic of yourself with your goal length hair like somebody here has as their sig (sorry I can't remember who).

If you have a photo manipulation program, try making a pic of yourself with your goal length hair like somebody here has as their sig (sorry I can't remember who).

Kathleen has one and Silverlady has several steps along the way.

If you don't have a photo manipulation program, this one is free, available for Windows, Mac, and Linux, and doesn't have any adware or spyware:

www.gimp.org (http://www.gimp.org)

Believe it or not, it happens to everyone -- the thought passes through the mind. This is a time of re-commitment to the idea as a whole, for the long term, meaning the why of wanting it long may need revamping, or just a gentle note to self.

First, wait 2 weeks, minimum. That's the rule. Before any decisions.

Your hair appears, in the photo, to be quite thick so you may have updo problems with the weight.

The Long Hair Loom has a variety of boards, one being the Styling Station. Many people post in there with their updo ideas and often enough, pictures and instructions on the how to, plus if there's something that appeals, you can always ask for instructions. That's the point of the Styling Station.

Consider a different part: zig zag where hairs cross; side; placing a deep side part so some comes over the forehead.

Does your hair take a curl? Steam curlers generally don't harm hair and it's a nice alternative.

How are you doing in the hair ornament department? In a rut with claw clips and scrunchies? Add something that glitters...and visit the Styling Station.

Maybe it's just you'd like to change the framing on the face. Long, long layers that frame the face in the front (not on the length overall nor on the back) yet still allow for hair to be placed in an updo is a possible alternative to cutting everything.

Those are some quick ideas.

heidi w.

Thank you everyone for the great ideas! my aim is to grow to waistlength- actually mid-belt-loop on my favorite pair of jeans- and my hair has always just seemed to hang there.

Heidi: my hair isn't so much thick as I have a ton of it, and it laughs at my attemps to keep a curl. I guess braids and ponytails are my remediy, because for some reason my updo-ing skills have declined to zero.

You have beautiful hair! I envy your hair and I think you should keep growing it!

Rapunzelwannabe, oh yes I can relate!!! I have a love/hate relationship with this mop of mine.:wink: Over the years I've noticed this *hair cycle*-- I love it for about 2 weeks, then it turns to poo for 2 weeks and I start getting really sick of it.:pirate: Then, as if it seems to pick up my urge to cut, it starts behaving, like, "Oh crap! I'd better be good!!!":blueeek:

If you want to cut it that's fine, but your hair is GORGEOUS and you're so close to your first goal! Please wait it out, I know that any time I've followed through with the urge to cut I've desperately regretted it later.... Pretty much, I look exactly the same with the same exact hair, only it's shorter and I can do nothing with it.

Hang in there sweetie!:flower: It's all good if you do end up cutting, but more than likely you'll just end up wanting to grow it back out again and then want to kick yourself later. That's the way it is for me anyway.:wink:

Good Luck!:sun:

Beautiful hair! Don't cut it!

Back in early February I had this really strong urge to get my hair cut in a short, layered sassy 'do. I don't know what came over me. :silly: It was going on 3 weeks of feeling that way....I was seriously thinking of making an appointment.

Then, I was in Church and I saw this very fashionable looking woman with a haircut like the one I thought I wanted. It looked very nice and neat but I got to thinking about how I don't feel as girly with my hair that short. I am NOT saying that short haired women are less feminine. It is just my own personal feeling of what I think looks and feels good on me.

The very next day I was at the library and I saw this woman with what had to be hip length hair in a long beautiful braid. My head snapped and I thought, "That's what I want!" Haven't had a serious hair cutting thought since. (Some times when my hair isn't behaving on a particular morning I feel like hacking it off but that is only a temporary, bad-hair day induced thought.)

I agree about the hair toy thing. Sometimes a new headband or clip is just the thing to spice up your routine!

Have Patience!! I swear, People with really long hair should get some kind of "Patience of a Lifetime" Award! :lol:

I always feel like cutting on days when my hair looks ratty. But I get my mind away from that by obsessing over other things like my weight :twisted: .

I'm not sick of the length, just the broken ends that are all the way up my head! I'd get a trim if it would help, but my breaks are in too many lengths. I have breaks where I put my bands for braids or ponytails, breaks where I put barrettes, and even breaks around my face. I'm doing everything I can to stop my hair from breaking, but when your hair is baby fine, it's not easy! So I just keep on CWCing and SMTing and hoping it will get stronger as it gets healthier.

hi there. i have just recently been through the same thing and i am just coming out the other side gratefull that i didnt cut. see here (http://www.forums.longhaircommunity.com/showthread.php?t=42346). noone is enraptured by themselves forever even if they do have great hair lol. hope you get thru ok. there was another thread floating around the other day. about a spring time urge to cut. i think it was called spring fever no cut support group or something like that.:waving:

there was another thread floating around the other day. about a spring time urge to cut. i think it was called spring fever no cut support group or something like that.:waving:

Great idea!:

here (http://forums.longhaircommunity.com/showthread.php?t=41825)

If you want to do something funky with it, check out www.drlocks.com or www.plastikhaar.com

You can get fake dreadlocks in amazing colors, and roving, and just brightly colored hair, and put it in braids or loose for a few weeks to a month for a quick pick-me-up.

You can also make synthetic bangs and such to keep the hair more interesting!

I get boared easy and I JUST got rid of the last of the dye-damage, but I MISS having the fun hair colors/funkyness. Sometimes I just wanna go ahead and get a crap load of purple and hot pink streaks, or to braid in some ass length purple wool dreadlocks.

If you just want a change, none of those things damages your hair, and when you take your hair out of the funky stuff, it's usually grown a whole lot- since it's in a braid and very protected the whole time, you get very few splits and tend to grow like mad.

I think this happens to most if not all long hairs at some time or another. Many of us have given in and cut only to regret, sometimes within hours. That happened to me. Now if I have a cutting thought, I think back to when it was shorter and how hard it was to care for and style and how much I disliked it shorter. Recalling that is enough to keep me from cutting more than a maintenance trim now.

As for suggestions on what to do. You've been given some really good ones. What I would suggest is if your ends are feeling rough and uneven, I'd trim a tiny bit like a half inch off and do a nice nourishing deep treatment. And next...GO SHOPPING for new hair toys and/or new products :grin: Have you tried a Ficcare or Mei Fa sticks? If they are available where you live, go to the store and try them on. Nordstroms usually has a pretty good selection of hair toys and sometimes you'll even find a salesperson with some updo knowledge. In my experience they've always let me play with and try on the hair toys. Looking at long hair pictures is always inspirational for me. Do some long hair people watching when out in public.

Remember it never hurts to wait and think about it some more. Two weeks is good but four or six or eight are better! :grin: Give yourself time to get over this urge to cut. Here's one thought I don't think has been mentioned....summer is coming. Do you want to deal with hot sweaty short hair in the summer that you can't put up in some way? Long hair even if it's sweaty can be put up in a nice cool up do. You can get your hair up and off your face and neck. I had one summer at the beginning of this grow out that I had so many layers a ponytail was just about impossible without a dozen bobby pins. I was so miserable. My hair was hot and sticky and I was always a sweatball. The next summer is was able to do a nice real ponytail and some messy bun things. I was so much happier. I remember thinking how much easier it was to do my hair and how much better I felt being able to do hot weather updo's.

I would urge you to wait and consider a cut for a longer time. Give time a change to change your mind. Consider all the suggestions you have been given. If you really want hip length hair then I think that will win out over the momentary urge for short hair.

Don't cut it!!! Maybe get a trim at first before you do anything drastic.

Hope you don't mind that I did this, but with a quick little photo edit, here is what you can expect in 2 or 3 months.

http://i25.photobucket.com/albums/c81/Lady_Evalyn/hairedit.jpg




Resist the scissor temptations!!!

Boy, I can relate! My problem is that my hair hasn't been increasing in length. I know it's growing (checking out the roots) but I'm not seeing appreciable lengthening. There have been SO many times I've thought about just lopping it all off, but have found that putting it in a braid or updo and forgetting about it helps get me past these moments.

I know exactly how you feel! The only thing that has kept me from chopping is a healthy hatred for hairdressers and salons, which so far has remained stronger than my dislike of the way my hair looks and how thin it is.

I also keep hoping that the longer it gets, the better it may look.

Try hair toys and see if maybe you can figure out exactly what it is you don't like about it, such as with me. It's the thinness of mine that I don't like, and curlers will sometimes help that.

I personally like your hair, it's a very pretty color.

My initial reaction is Girl, don't do it. Your hair is lovely, a beautiful color and looks thick. You'd have gorgeous long hair, and a cut now will only mean a longer wait toward the length you're going for.

I've been practically Tailbone length, and chopped off more than I wanted, and it's been a long, long battle to get back to the 29 inches I've got today. My 2 measly cents would be to do a trim, even up to 2 inches--something you could get back pretty easily. This gives you an idea of how much you'll miss your length. You might weep a little, but it'd be worse if you cut more, and you'll get it out of your system. Sometimes you do have to satisfy your curiosity, that much I do know. If you still feel the need to chop, then chop away.

But you're almost there...

And for the record, yes I myself get "sick" of my own hair pretty much every week, until I have a Good Hair Day, and then I'm soooooooo happy and want to grow more and more.

I think your hair is awfully pretty and that it would be a shame to cut it on a possibly temporary feeling. I concur with the others that a slight trim might be in order if you're having trouble with tangling or some other problem. However, if your hair's in good condition, why don't you wait a few weeks to see if you really want to cut it? Then, if you decide you do, what about a half inch to an inch to take off the ends. You can always cut more a month or two later if you find that's not enough to make you happy.

The idea about summer's approach is a good thing to think about. There's little more annoying that having hair stick to a sweaty face. If you garden, it's really difficult to keep the hair out of your eyes and off your face when it's too short to put in an updo or a sturdy ponytail. Keeping hair off the nape of your neck is very cooling, too.

And of course, you know we'll all support you no matter what you decide! Keep us posted.

I got this terrible feeling last night, my scalp was feeling bruised from changing parts recently, and I couldn't get anything to stick up (as in hairstick dos) and I couldn't just braid it because we were at a concert and I wanted so badly to make it look nice. I ended up wearing it out and just forgetting that the ends look funny to most people.

I was so tempted to come and rant and beg for help: I know I want my hair long, but sometimes it just bothers me. Temporary it was, for I've got it in a braid now and I'm happy with it :)

Bonnie

I desire to have long, healthy locks, but I know that it's going to take a lot of hard work. The longer it gets, the more I get tangled in my necklaces and have to wear it up. I just have to get used to this, that's all..Beauty is such a chore sometimes! :D

I'm kind of at that yucko stage, myself, Rapunzelwannabe. My mother and daughter both pressure me to trim; and I'm tempted 'cause the tresses look like crap at the moment. Not short but not long.

I soothe myself by thinking that summer is almost here, and with it more length, and I can just put it up every day and forget it.

Lovely hair, you should grow them.
Probably you can get over this "sick of them feeling" by getting yourself more involved . Try spending more time in some DMTs, new hair toys hair styles, etc etc...there is so much u can do with those locks. Try to feel like a goddess, taking care of her hair, with all the beautiful things in the worl and all magical potions to make them more and more and more beautiful and long and flowing.........Imagine!!!!!

I'm kind of at that yucko stage, myself, Rapunzelwannabe. My mother and daughter both pressure me to trim; and I'm tempted 'cause the tresses look like crap at the moment. Not short but not long.

No, no. Your length may be inbetween, but unless that isn't you in your avatar, your hair doesn't look like crap. Resist the trimmers, eat chocolate, and have patience. The length will come.

Hiya
it does happen to everyone - my SO had this feeling last month - but is back on track now - part of the key is doing stuff with it. Otherwise the 'boring' look thing shows it head.
Good luck
Kev

My newest trick - every 6-8 weeks I buy a new hair toy rather than spend $75 getting a hair cut and blowdry like I did when my hair was short. Sunday I bought a new ficcare at Nordstrums - ONLY $32!!

I am only getting my hair trimmed once a year in October. So that allows somebucks for trying different hair products and toys!

Don't do it! I did, and while I've had fun with my short style and I'm glad I have fresh, healthy ends to start with, I miss my long hair, and am now once again confronting the long process of growing it out again. So don't do it!

When I start to get discouraged about my hair I just take a look at some inspirational hair photos. I also keep in mind that my growth rate is 1" a month and that helps me to hang in there because I know soon I will be to my goal. I definitely think you should hold out to your first goal. You are SOOoo close! Buying hair toys is a great idea also.