Hi. I was over here at lunchtime, but I didn't have time to post this message as I had to go to work.

Since Christmas, my dh and I have been looking for new work. As I didn't get into pre-ministerial training last year we sat and talked about many things, the upshot of everything being that we feel we don't want to stay here too much longer. There are many reasons, the biggest being that we can't afford to buy anywhere of our own here, my dh needs a much more challenging work role before he explodes from boredom, and as we currently have no children/mortgage/whatever, now would be a good time to move on. We have been looking for work for us both (we have been thinking and praying about working in Christian hospitality - retreat houses, conference and holiday facilities, quiet places.....all those things) and also for my dh solo. We have said we will go anywhere in the country - this town isn't offering either of us any more opportunities than it was when we moved here seven years ago.

First Problem: I like to get moving on decisions (before I have time to worry over them and think of all the reasons I don't want to do it) and my dh has said he will not start looking for anything until April, because he is up to his ears in work. This is true, but past experiences tell me that come April it stands a chance of not happening either. I don't want to say I don't trust him to follow through on this, but I fear it may be true. :(

Second Problem: Since I left college I have been interested in working in classroom/academic support and applied last year into the staff bank at my old university. I heard nothing apart from a "we will hold you on file blahblahblahblahblah letter". But today I have had a letter asking me if I am still interested and available for this work. They will probably be recruiting for the current semester but if they are going beyond it, I may have problems, I don't want to tie up our options as to where we go.

I don't see us moving before the summer hols anyway, which is fine cos I can see out my school job and I hoped I would be able to. I am so bad at letting people down and I always feel bad about stuff like that. I can't stand temping at my husbands present workplace for too much longer, I will poke someone's eyes out.

Help!! I can't see a clear way forward, I don't know whether to ring the Uni personnel office or not. Guess I could just ask them when they are recruiting for.......and then wait and see.... I would really really like to do this though. But it would mean I would prob. have to give up my school job. Am I just confused and crazy?

I know i have a bad case of work blues because I am not doing (and don't stand a chance at for a while, apparently) what I want desparately to be doing. But my head feels jumbled.

:?

Bees

Hi BeeLady, sorry to hear you're having such turmoil! I can understand your frustration. Perhaps you can apply to the university job and just see what happens? The position may be for this semester, in which case it would be just right, wouldn't it? You can always apply and make your decision later once you know more about what the job would entail. Meanwhile, I'll keep you in my prayers! :)

First Problem: I like to get moving on decisions (before I have time to worry over them and think of all the reasons I don't want to do it) and my dh has said he will not start looking for anything until April, because he is up to his ears in work. This is true, but past experiences tell me that come April it stands a chance of not happening either. I don't want to say I don't trust him to follow through on this, but I fear it may be true. :(



Oh BEES!!! Are you sure you aren't talking about MY husband?! Are they brothers???!!! Long lost cousins????!!! ;)

I'm like you, if we're gonna do it, let's do it . . . before I talk myself out of it. Hubby wants to think and hem-haw over it. Then not talk about it (while he is ruminating over the ideas), then time arrives and he wants to do whatever it is . . . frustrated the pewaddle out of me!!!

Without going into MY boring version of this story, can you be searching for options (places and jobs) without always discussing it with him. Develop a portfolio of options, so when he is in a mental position of being able to discuss it, you have done a lot of the research?

This is what I end up doing to keep my sanity AND his! ;) :rolleyes:

Hugs!

sorry to hear you are having troubles, but know you will find a way out of this (make a way of escape, you know.) My FIRST thought when you said you would like to move is "Idaho is nice; she could move to IDAHO!!!!!" I know a coupla ladies (me 'n' thinkfirst) who would welcome you with open arms!!!!

If hubby isn't going to be ready until April, and possibly not till another month or more past THAT, you could surely work at the university until then. There's no LAW that says "once you accept a position, you MUST work there at least a year", is there? That means you could work there three or four months and then tender your resignation...... Shucks, Dave and I employ LOTS of people who only work for us several months. Summertime is a perfect example. Those students ditch us, come fall, to attend the university again. That's OK. The ones *I* hate to do are the ones who say "Yes, I want a job" and then quit within two weeks (bums.) I just want to shake them and say "Make up your other mind!!!!" The most expensive part of employer-ism is TRAINING the new help. WHen they quit just as their training is over, you haven't gained much, as an employer.

I seem to recall that your school lunchtime job has been giving you fits; maybe this univ job is your answer; the "open window", as it were????


Keep us posted, and I'll be looking for affordable housing here in IDAHO!!

Hugs,

Just my opinion...

Go for it. Apply now, go through the process and enjoy it. It'll be something new. You can always (usually) postpone moving. You need to look at what will make you happy and ease stress.

Have you made a list of pro's and con's? Do you really need to? Meaning, is it obvious what you WANT to do? Would you do it if you were in a different situation? How can you work around that?

Anyway, keep us posted!

I don't see very many people I really know well here, my life is a bit..... small in that way. You guys are a great sounding board.

LJ - Idaho sounds fine to me......... I know you girls would take care of me and my dh. I found a couple of jobs for him to try - the bad news is that the dates had gone and he wouldn't have a blind minute to apply for them right now, (He just got back in from work now) the good news is that I know a bit more about what he wants to do. I mean, it's IT, so I don't actually understand it, but he highlighted the adverts for me so at least I know what words to look for.

I will call personnel on Monday morning. I promise.

Lots of Love.....

Bees (Queen of Confusion)